What is a coach?
According to Merriam-Webster a coach is a person who teaches and train an athlete or performer; a person who teaches and train the members of a sports team and make decisions about how the team plays during games.
Can you approach a coach with your concerns in regards to your children?
Very tricky issue…when do you approach the coach? Are you trying to tell the coach how to coach your child? What are your concerns? Are you bias? Approaching a coach at a high level of competitive sports can end up hurting your child’s opportunity with the team. A good listener will understand the rules before the child engage in the sport. The coach is a coach for a reason, you are just a parent, if you have any input as to how to play a game, who gets to play, etc. then perhaps you should become a coach. The best time to approach a coach is when the coach opens the door for conversation, not before or after a game.
How to react when your child is not getting enough play time?
Look deep into your child’s performance and mental state during though situations. Your child’s coach may notice things that you as a parent cannot see. Talk to other parents around you to see if they are having the same problem. Do a background search, see if the coach is legit, look at the coaches record. Finally, allow time for the coach to work with your child.
How do you know the coach is a good one?
Do some research, good coaches are well-known in the neighborhood, in the area where they live, work or grew up and they usually have a track record of their accomplishments.
How do I know if my child is reacting in a positive way to the coaches style?
Talk to your child, ask your child for what’s important for them. Ask your child how he/she feels when he or she is in the proximity of the coach. Look at your child’s body language. Pay attention to how your child reacts when he/she is actively playing. Be an active listener and be part of your child’s life…allow your child to be exposed to coaches with different coaching styles.
As a parent, you can be bias about your child’s performance. The older the child gets, the more is expected of him/her, minor details can make or break his/hers time of play. Be aware that you can hinder your child by intervening with the team’s coach, just provide all the tools your child needs to develop the necessary skills needed to play. Keep in mind that you do not have to like to coach or agree with what he do, but you do have to respect HIS/HER game!
Advice is given based on my personal experience as a baseball mom.